I don’t know if you’re anything like me, but I like things to go according to plan. Frankly, 2011 has not quite been doing what I’m trying to tell it to do. I’ve got heaps of great projects up in the air but everything seems to be going wrong. Until this morning when one of my staff told me he was simply fed-up with me being Mr Grumpy in the office and I have to “sort myself out”. Ouch. He then followed on by saying “if things are going wrong, the problem is with you.”
First I had to deal with the usual emotions … who does he think he is talking to me like that? I pay his salary! He should tow the line!
I then had to stop myself, because I knew he was right. I encourage truthfulness in my team, so I shouldn’t be shocked with the team call me out on my bad attitude. It may hurt (A LOT!) but I do need to hear the “eina-stories”.
Maybe you feel a little frustrated by your situation. The economy is bad, clients aren’t paying on time and money is tight. Maybe, like me, you feel like you’re banging your head against the wall.
In times like these, it helps me to focus on the words of Reinhold Niebuhr:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Let me make a suggestion; take 30 minutes out of your day RIGHT NOW and ask yourself: Am I really this person? Am I living and doing what I am meant to do, or am I banging aimlessly against a wall I have absolutely no control over?
Secondly, ask yourself: What am I in control of? What can I change? And what am I going to do about it?
If I am going to grow up to be someone in the league of Donald Trump or Robert Kiyosaki, I need to ask myself … how would they act? Do they walk around like Mr Grumpy in the office? Or do they control their emotions?
So, decision time: Are we going to take control over our actions?